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Eliminating Stress

July 28, 2016 by  
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We have officially accepted stress as an everyday, unavoidable black cloud that follows us wherever we go.  It’s in the car.  It’s in the office.  It’s at home.  Stress is waiting around every corner with it’s sharp edges ready to chip away at our most complete selves.  Stress heightens our blood pressure, making us irritable and tired.  It causes our bodies to lock up and feel limited in the activities we used to be able to do.  Whether we realize it or not, stress is a significant ingredient in what weighs us down.

It is a difficult concept to realize in one’s self.  We get lost in the day to day hustle and bustle; each new day elicits tasks and responsibilities.  We forget to take a moment to consider how we feel both physically and emotionally.  “But I have to take the car to the shop……”

Let me empower you with the idea of massage therapy.  My job, my passion in life is to help people feel good; to encourage each individual to gain control of their own well-being arm them with a protective shield against stress.  No phones, no traffic, no kids; a calm and soothing environment for you to let go and tune in.  To work the knots out, to replace the dull ache with vibrant mobility.  To bring you back to a place when you felt strong and energetic.

It’s seemingly too simple a solution.  How can a massage combat the negative effects of stressful situations that face us when we wake up every day?  The answer is that massage is part of the solution, and restitution happens a little in small steps.  “But I just don’t have the time…”

Saying you don’t have the time is just like saying yes to sore neck and shoulder muscles.  Saying you don’t have the time allows stress to work it’s dark magic and slowly suck the metaphorical breath right out of you.  Enough of the bad stuff; let’s talk benefits.

Massage improves circulation of blood and lymphatic fluid. Healthy, hearty oxygenated blood to limbs and muscles make the body happy!  Massage is an excellent compliment to exercise and stretching, which also promote fluid movement.  Massage eases tense muscles.  Have you ever had that pain in the neck and shoulders that keeps you from looking over your shoulder?  The pain that intensifies after long days and commutes? Massage can really help that.  Better yet, massage can keep it from coming back; it’s just a tight muscle.

EASE TENSE MUSCLES+INCREASED CIRCULATION=A VERY HAPPY NECK

Massage increases immune system functions.  Healthy, non-restricted blood carries antibodies to all parts of your body, and contains cells that devour the metabolic wastes.  Keep it clean and flowing!  Keep your energy levels up.  “Go ahead cold, make my day…”

Massage improves joint flexibility.  Tight muscles anchor joints down.  Lighten the load; decrease the tension and you’ll be doing the backstroke all the way home.

Massage promotes the feeling of wholeness.  Do you ever feel disconnected from the waist down?  Do you feel like your hands and feet are numb and restricted in movement?  A full body massage works closely with your energy levels, bringing back into focus that you are a complete individual from head to toe.  Get grounded!

And that’s just to name a few.  Nevermind massage facilitates recovery from injury, relieves anxiety, calms the mind, brings to light self awareness, and overall feels really good…

No more excuses.  A reason to avoid your well-being and simply endure the negative effects of stress does not exist.  Get a massage.  For your body, mind and spirit.

Jennifer Myers
centeryourselfmassage.com

What You As A Parent Can Do To Help Your Child With ADD

June 8, 2016 by  
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With the diagnosis of your child with Attention Deficit Disorder, you may feel a shower of emotions: remorse, a feeling of not being in charge, or comfort for now being aware of your child’s problem, or frustration. However in the midst of all this turmoil, do not forget that your child’s situation is not out of control. There are a number of ways in which you can help your child use his talents, and deal with ADD.

The first most important step is to properly do your research and know everything about ADD. You would thus be in a better position to help your child, and understand the problems. You would also become more aware of the popular treatments, and be more prepared to face what might come next. It should also be helpful in preparing you to work with the doctor for managing the disorder successfully.

With the advice of your doctor, you should also plan whether you should get your child medicated. This depends on your individual opinion and the decision is entirely personal. According to some parents, being able to provide their children with means to lead a normal life is the best opportunity that they can give. But, for others, medication is not a good choice. However, no matter what you decide, you should be sure of it and well informed about your choice.

In any case, even if you are using medication, some strategies of behavior therapies should be applied to help manage you child’s actions. These prepare your child with lasting skills to provide them with help in becoming efficient and productive. The strategies for your child’s actions and the consequences should be set by you. Children suffering from ADD need to have well defined limits set on their actions and must be treated with steady discipline.

You should be your child’s best supporter, and must encourage your child. Make sure that the way they are treated at school and at home, in such that it would guarantee you child’s progress. You, along with the teachers and doctors, should be like a team whose target must be to assist your child in being successful.

So lend a hand and help your child grow to be a self-assured and joyful person. Recognize their potential and let them know to what extent you love them. A child diagnosed with ADD habitually goes through depression and low sense of worth. So if you see such cases arising then take necessary actions to steer clear of this outcome. And if the situation demands, request for expert help.

Joining a good support group and reaching out to people who share the same state of affairs, could be useful. Often the top suggestions you can get is from a person who has been through a similar situation. Make use of the experiences of life!

What Is It Like To Live With ADD

June 8, 2016 by  
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Life ahead may be easy for a child, a teenager, or even an adult diagnosed with ADD. For somebody, just diagnosed with ADD, predicting the life in future might not be easy, as one may not know how the symptoms would continue to remain and how the problem would be affected by age. However, thankfully, as time moves on, one starts to understand how to deal with ADD more efficiently, so that it causes fewer troubles in life.

Children with ADD are usually unmindful, reckless, or may get distracted easily or may show too much of goings-on. Also, the symptoms remain mostly the same even in other age groups. However, dealing with these symptoms does improve significantly, as one gets older.

The affect ADD can have on your life is largely determined by the medication you choose for treating the disorder. You may wish to consult the doctor to give you an advice on the future effects of taking stimulants, and also the implications of other medicines. Medicines are useful in dealing with ADD, though you can also try a behavior therapy too.

There are some characteristic traits, typical of ADD that you should prepare for in your life. These may be difficulties in being attentive to details, problem in remaining still for any span of time, being fidgety, or problem in being able to stay through and complete a given task.

Nevertheless, you can do a number of things in order to deal with the behavior typically related to ADD. To become more orderly and more managed in keeping things, an organizer can prove to be quite useful. For this, you can choose from anything like the effective book calendars to the digital organizers that are quite technologically sophisticated, to personal assistants. These will keep you well ordered, provided you are well trained to use these devices so that they can remember your important information and schedules.

These routines and schedules should be used to their maximum. You will naturally be inclined to forget and be careless. So by using a proper device you will tend to behave more unlike your nature and thus make lesser mistakes. So, it is always better to use automation.

You may also wish to be a part of groups, for support, or may at least want the company of the ones like you. You may feel the need for someone to confide in, who can understand you situation well. A person with ADD could be a perfect companion since they may be able to connect with you better than any friend or a family member, since they can support you only to a limit.

Planning The Daily Life For Adults with ADD

June 8, 2016 by  
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Details seem to be useless to those adults who are suffering from Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). We do have our goals clear in our minds, and cannot wait to have it achieved, hoping that there was some way to skip all the work required to be done in the process. Sadly enough, this attitude tends to get us overwhelmed, when we are to start the project. We seem to know what we want at the end, without having any idea of what needs to be done at the beginning.

This story is true for the everyday life as well. Adults suffering from ADD, generally start their day being sure of their goals, but they can’t seem to get their priorities right and decide where to start from. This causes them to feel stressed and guilty, which makes them feel bad, and ultimately work less.

To avoid such a situation, these adults should develop the habit of making a daily planning routine.

In order to develop such a routine, the following 3 steps can be practiced:

1. Deciding On a Time to Do the Planning

The time of the day when the planning process can be done should be decided first. This should require only about 15 minutes, and the time could either be set specifically (say 8:00 PM) or could just be something like the time “right before bed.”

The time late in the day is usually most preferred by the adults with ADD, since that is when they are the most alert. This is helpful since it allows one to plan for the next day, instead of worrying over it when they should go to bed!

2. Reviewing the To-Do List

Firstly make sure that you do use a to-do list, (if you don’t then make one). This can be reviewed during each of your planning sessions, to remind you of what needs to be done. It also helps you feel good about all that you have already done during the day.

You must regularly re-write the list, deleting all the completed tasks and adding the new ones. The most urgent and important of the tasks should be noted at the top of the list. You may break the large ones into 3-5 steps, noting it down on your list.

3. Reviewing the Calendar

Now, go through your daily planner (assuming that you are now finally using one!). Check your next day’s appointments and block off those times on the planner, not forgetting the travel time. Now you can plan how to set aside some of your remaining time for the jobs on the to-do list.

Thus, spending just 15 minutes on planning the schedule can take away the everyday stress from the life of an adult with ADD, and can help one move ahead.

Attention Deficit Disorder – What Is It Anyway

June 8, 2016 by  
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As parents, many of us have spent sleepless nights wondering whether our kid is suffering from Attention Deficit Disorder. And with due cause too, most of us know the fundamental effects of the disease and obviously shrink at the thought of having to deal with it. Apart from the fear that the disease can be difficult to deal with there is always this subconscious guilt in most parents for being responsible for their kid’s problem, most of us blame ourselves for not being strict enough or disciplinarian enough to have straightened out the disorder. While all these apprehensions are quite normal they aren’t always what we might call rational or well-founded.

It seems there are about 3 broad stages in the normal development of a child. The very first one amongst these is observable in infants. During this time babies get occupied with a certain object or act and focus on it completely, thereby ignoring almost everything else. If the child’s development stalls at this specific point it might later show signs of autism.

At the second stage, observed in slightly older kids, the child is interested in a variety of things all at once and is therefore incapable of concentrating on any one of them for more than a few minutes. If the child stops at this stage of development he might later go on to suffer from what we conventionally know as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD).

The ultimate stage equips the child’s potentials to mature to a point where they can comfortably and voluntarily point their attention in a certain direction for a long period of time and can alter their choice of direction or their actions connected to it as and when they want or need. This stage therefore is a crucial transition stage which moulds the child for success in the classroom and the real world.

What most of us do not know is that ADD does not just make an individual incapable of concentrating on anything for a certain period of time; it also makes him/her incapable of deciding where they want to direct their attention and for how long. For instance, if an ADD sufferer is crossing the road, in spite of being tutored for like a few thousand times as to how to do so safely he/she is most likely to go about it suddenly without any care in the world as to what the status of the traffic is. All they know, vaguely that too, is that they need to cross the road, but after having remembered that they get quickly attracted by some other idea or thing and quickly to another, such that by the time they reach the opposite side (which in itself is quite a difficult task given their reckless behavior) they have probably dealt with a dozen bits of thoughts already!

On the opposite end, ADD also makes individuals focus on some specific object or act so completely that they get wholly consumed in it and are absolutely cut-off from everything else. They might therefore watch the same film again and again or read a specific page repeatedly with absolute nonchalance. Later this behavior might get molded into habits of over-eating or substance-abuse or compulsive behavior.

Another variety of ADD is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD, which keeps all its sufferers always on their toes, moving from one place to another doing something or the other unable to relax, incapable of settling down. Kids suffering from this can literally drive their parents insane and keep them up nights, trying to calm their child and put him to sleep.
While experience has led most Psychologists to conclude that ADD is not a problem the child will naturally grow out of (that is its not what can be termed self-healing) they have also quite vehemently ruled out any chance of the parent’s become responsible for causing it. So if your child is suffering from ADD quit blaming yourself, instead recognize the problem for what it is and contact a specialist as soon as possible.

Attention Deficit Disorder – Is It Really That

June 8, 2016 by  
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Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD is most frequently identified in boys of primary school age. Indications consist of lack of concentration, being restless, reckless mannerisms, or lack of focus. But what brings about these indications, in fact? And should every one of the occurrences of ADD be treated?

In a few occurrences, the indications of ADD may in fact be indicative of a more severe psychological predicament, such as depression, bipolar disorder, brain defects and even nervousness. On the other hand, at times the occurrence of the particular inattentive behavior may simply be due to allergic reactions, sensitivities to the environment, nutritional deficits or also too much caffeine.

Many times, young boys are wrongly diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder merely for conducting themselves the way anybody would be expecting. Young boys will by and large make reckless resolutions, have a lot of superfluous energy, cannot sit still, and have short concentration period in school. Combined with the fact that the majority of school age children use up more than forty hours a week watching TV and playing computer games, it is not a surprise that a lot of children have energy to use up.

ADD mannerism is frequently indicative of creativeness, giftedness, high aptitude, and a child being a visual theorist.

In short, an analysis of Attention Deficit Disorder ought to be thought of as a start, and not an end. Too frequently, when a doctor sees that a child is agitated and has a short concentration period, she writes a medication for Dexedrine or Ritalin and that is that. But these drugs have possibly unsafe side effects, and are not essentially going to cure the predicament at all.

A further comprehensive examination of the occurrence generally falls upon the child’s parents. The facts stated here is aimed to steer the parents in the right track, giving propositions of where to begin looking for the reason of the child’s Attention Deficit Disorder related manners.

Attention Deficit Disorder – Is It A Learning Disability

June 8, 2016 by  
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When we talk of the term ’learning disability’ then what we generally mean is that it is a perceptual disability like other disabilities such as autism or visual processing disorder, or dyslexia auditory disability. It should not be treated as a learning disability. Anyone who has ADD is perfectly capable of understanding and using the available information. Hence it cannot be considered as a learning disability.

ADD doesn’t really obstruct the learning process although it is combined with all other disabilities most of the time. A small child who is suffering from ADD can take in the information he sees and then he can process it and even keep it in his memory just like normal human beings. The only problem is attracting his attention for long enough so that he may take in the information to begin with.

He has problems in school and also in general but this can’t be treated as a disability of any kind. Once the treatment for his ADD problem starts, his performance in school shoots up. But sometimes, a person who has ADD problem might not be having any difficulty in his education at all. It is different from person to person.

But we must remember that there are other disabilities, especially, in very small pre school children, They might have problems in understanding sounds and words and may have some speech problems too. Those kids who are of reading writing age may experience reading, writings and mathematical and spelling problems. Similarly Dyslexia, which is reading disorder, is very common among children having ADD. But it must be kept in mind that it is not necessary that all the children may have these problems.

Some difficulties may arise in ADD affected children but here there are various ways of improving the situation. Most of them are benefited by a fixed schedule, by having the same time for all the activities. They are weak in remembering things, so routine work helps them. The habit developed by repetition of activity helps them.

Similarly, if you keep things in a fixed place then they find it easier to remember it. They can even be helped by binders and planners for the activities they have to undertake. It helps them in being organized.

In class, if the teacher has an interactive attitude instead of giving a lecture then the child manages to give more attention to the work in hand and his frequency of distractions may go down.
Thus, you must remember that a child, inspire of having this disorder can grow into a successful person.

Attention Deficit Disorder – Is It A Disease or Just A Phase

June 8, 2016 by  
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When you were a kid, didn’t you run about all the time for no particular cause? Didn’t you continuously turn your concentration from one thing to the other? Didn’t you have a tough time sitting motionless? Didn’t you have a tough time concentrating on one thing, for long span of time? You were a kid and you behaved the manner in which nearly all children do. You did not reflect about things, you simply did them since at that age, there was no thinking procedure. Nearly all children get through this stage in their early life, but science has gone ahead and told us that perhaps this action is not so normal.

Attention Deficit Disorder, how do we describe it? You would believe with all the great minds in the world that somebody would have come up with a description that suits. But that is not the case – it appears that ADD is an arbitrary definition and not essentially an illness.

There is still puzzlement over who does and does not have ADD. A few associates of the mental health association had a demand to categorize any person with ADD, as having a brain deficiency. Apparently this was as a result of the fact that the first group of ADD patients that were studied had been ill with encephalitis, which is an inflammation of the brain. But this criterion no longer is no longer valid, for the reason that over the years, people with no brain deficiencies, have been added to the roll call of ADD.

At this time, there are two most important kinds of ADD. ADD with hyperactivity and ADD without hyperactivity. Indications of ADD plus hyperactivity are described as: can’t keep on seated, restless, climbs or runs a lot, talks much, can’t play peacefully and also having a tough time standing in line or waiting for their turn. A few indications of ADD without hyperactivity are, disordered, having a tough time concentrating on tasks, with no trouble getting diverted and does not appear to pay attention.

Therefore, who has ADD? The numbers by and large given are 3 to 5 percent of the people. But no one knows. Since ADD is so arbitrary, it is apparent that several who are listed as ADD, may not even fit in there.

There is still an important debate going on as to the validness of ADD. Is it genuine? A number of people say that ADD is not an illness, but a compilation of mannerisms and indications, that may possibly be generated by any number of troubles. And when you include the reality that the specialists in the field, can’t even make a decision on what precisely ADD is and who precisely has it, then this only gives more credibility to those that gave a suspicion over the presence of ADD. Of course there are lots of people who consider that ADD is genuine and not just some stage a person is going through. They consider that people ought to be taken care of for their symptoms and not be anticipated to just get out of them.

Attention Deficit Disorder – How It Affects Families

June 8, 2016 by  
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Attention Deficit Disorder usually comes with a lot of frustration and blame. Often the diagnosis happens late and so, the disease–related problems are often misunderstood. This may result in serious emotional and mental scars when the family tries to deal with ADD–related issues. Thus, this disorder is difficult for the diseased child, the parents and the siblings.

The child who is suffering from ADD is clearly the first victim. Though these children have a strong desire to show normal behavior, their actions can be impulsive. This impulsive behavior often gets punished. Because of these punishments, these children often develop very low self-esteem. Many times, the parents and teachers are either not aware of or do not accept that the child has a disorder and thus don’t behave in a mature and conscious way. After the child has been scolded or punished for his impulsive actions, the child feels that he will never be up to the mark and meet others’ expectations from him.

The next victims of ADD are obviously the parents of the child. These parents start doubting their parenting and are often incredibly frustrated. Often, these parents are ridiculed by family members, teachers and other acquaintances as if lack of discipline is the cause of their child’s problem. They begin to see their rearing habits in poor light. They sometimes start blaming each other for being excessively lenient or harsh while dealing with the child. The disagreements and arguments that result from this may put considerable strain on their marriage and relationship.

Though not apparent at first glance, siblings of the child with ADD are the next victims after the child and the parents. Like the child with ADD and the parents, they also suffer from anxiety and frustration. As the child with ADD is given so much attention by everyone, even if it is negative, they develop jealousy towards the child with ADD. As the child with ADD can be aggressive, the siblings often suffer due to the impulsive actions of the child. Also, often the siblings are categorized in social environments and schools owing to the behavior of their brother/ sister. This all can have negative effect on the siblings.

After immediate family, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents etc. of the child with ADD may also be affected. Depending on how close the family is, outbursts in the behavior and the discipline–related issues may be an important factor to be dealt with again and again. In extreme situations, ADD may cause rifts in the relationships.

Attention Deficit Disorder – Getting Your Facts Right

June 8, 2016 by  
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With all that is written about ADHD, most of us tend to think of a bad little lad running about ruining whatever comes his way. So we often believe that we can spot the child with ADD while we are out. Well the naughty little boy is there fine, but did we ever spare a thought about the little girl who sits quiet and withdrawn with her mother, one who is overtly polite, terribly afraid to speak out and draws a blank when spoken to? In all probabilities, everyone would fail to guess that she might be suffering from ADD or the Attention Deficit Disorder.

Difficult as they are, ADD and ADHD have some obvious symptoms too. The affected person suffers from distraction, easy forgetfulness and low self-esteem, faces problem in following fast conversations and gets highly disordered with tasks. ADD and ADHD both can retard mental growth in this that the affected child has to struggle with school work and assignment deadlines, failing to finish things on time. These disorders also rob the child off his/her ability to manage the belongings and to keep track of time.

ADD Symptoms:

• Lacks vigor, suffers from sloth
• Values others more, respecting their individual limits
• Often unassertive or under-assertive
• Too much obedience
• Excessive humbleness and modesty
• Overtly polite and shy
• Avoiding crowd, preferring to stay alone and socially withdrawn
• Not able to open up easily and befriend, although they make a few bonds

Since it is assumed that girls are generally shy, people often overlook the ADD symptoms in them and they are left untreated. Their outward calm, quiet and politeness are usually to cover up the inner disturbance. ADD affected girls are emotional and highly sensitive to criticism; but the feelings invoked thus, after being criticized, remain untold. They just carry on with life, struggling silently. Interestingly enough, their ADHD counterparts move forward with absolutely no sign of stress or fatigue and seem totally unaffected by all deterrents in the walk of life. Girls suffering from ADD cannot withstand stress and usually draw back more into a shell with a belief that they are good-for-nothing and can never do anything right.

Helping a person with ADD

All ADD affected girls are predominantly emotional, irrespective of their nature—be it shy, social, introvert, hyperactive or super-impulsive. This over-sensitivity evidently invites regular upsets which, in turn, give rise to more and more stress. Hence, they should be taught to manage stress through various techniques from an early age. They must also be ascribed a certain revival time to regroup or collect themselves after every damage or emotional upset.

Although it is true that parents always wish the best for their children, they sometimes, unknowingly, impede mental growth in their kids by hurling too much criticism at them or by driving them mad with a series of never-ending do’s and don’ts like “You must not be so silly. You got to finish school with high grades”, “You need to improve your looks. Try and be as smart as your brother”, “You should be a little more assertive. This won’t help”, “why do you let yourself be taken for granted? Wake up”, “Make more friends”, “Do not let go off things so easily” so on and so forth. While all these are fine at times, too much of criticism breeds low self-esteem in her—be she shy, outspoken, drawn-back or unruly!

At school, throughout the day, the confidence and self-regard of these girls are constantly shattered and their only respite is at home, where they can rebuild their crushed dignity and revitalize themselves to fight another day. Continuous criticism roots in them the belief that they are worthless. These girls suffering from ADD become extremely impulsive, disorganized and lack focus in everything only to secure poor grades in class. Full of distractions, these girls lack the vigor and energy to develop their personality and skill sets that their peers have. Instead of pointing at their limitations, it is better to compliment them or appreciate when they pick up a skill or show signs of a good ability. Their psyche just needs a positive boost. And it’s not hard to make them feel good—an ADD-affected girl can easily get lucky and find interest in some activity. That then becomes the first positive move, the most desired turning point in their lives!